We all are well aware with the word “ gossip” and I am sure to say that we have all been a part of it or have done it in our life!
Where this is taken as a character flaw and the people are looked down on and are considered being very low from the moral high ground! We all think gossip is a social evil but we all want in on the secrets of others and to know all the juicy information circulating around about people even if it’s not true!!
We all have had a firsthand experience about knowing something that is the of the highest “gossip material” degree and wanting so hard to disclose it or being the one people are “gossiping about”, it is kind of a full circle and dare I say “ What goes around, comes around.”
With this being said I cannot overlook the facts that Evolutionary psychologists believe- they think that where gossip is regarded as the evil of highest merit, it does has its benefits!
It, according to them is a social skill and the people who don’t gossip are not so good in maintaining relationships and are often left outside the social circle, looking at it from the outside, feeling unwanted!
As humans we are hardwired to gossip as the evolutionary psychologists have given out some theories that tell us that our preoccupation with the lives of others is a byproduct of a prehistoric brain.
According to scientists, our prehistoric ancestors lived together in groups and they knew each other intimately, the reasons being able to ward off enemies and invasions by forming a strong bond within and also to survive the harsh natural environment they lived in, they also had competition for the mates and natural resources!
With this backdrop they had to keep tabs on people to know who was trustworthy, who to count on and who to dismiss!!
So in those circumstances keeping an eye on the personal dealings of people surely came in handy and helped them to better themselves and become more successful in the “ Survival of the
fittest” competition. The genes of those individuals were passed along from one generation to the next!
Today, good gossipers are influential and popular people among the social circles, they are on good terms with everybody and are the know-it-all people of groups!
Studies have shown that in workplaces, harmless gossiping builds group cohesiveness and boosts morale.
Gossip also helps to socialize newcomers into groups as it helps the newbies and underlings to know what’s acceptable and what’s not!
With all this being said and told I’m sure we all will cut a little slack for the gossipers as it is their skill not a flaw!
Talk about every cloud having a silver lining!!
Credits: Urooba Akhtar